There are many questions that need to be answered before getting married. Marriage isn't just about the wedding day, which I know some of us ladies like to fantasize about, but its really about your life togethou er and the journey you will be taking with your spouse. The journey of a lifetime. This journey is not going to be easy or all bliss, it will be hard and challenging, but know this...if centered around Christ, it will be fruitful and pleasing to God. A marriage that is beneficial to the kingdom.
So, reading up the last chapters of Boy Meets Girl has been great but unapplicable to me. It goes over questions to ask before you get married. As I read it I found out you have to have a boyfriend in mind in order to answer those questions. I wasn't about to put a face to it so I hope this can be benificial to you ladies and gentlemen that are heading in the direction toward marriage. When the time comes these questions will be good for me to answer as well, but for now they are meant for you.
Questions:
1) Is your relationship centered on God and His glory?
2) Are you growing in friendship, communication, fellowship, and romance?
3) Are you clear on your biblical roles as man & woman?
4) Are other people supportive of your relationship?
5) Is sexual desire playing too big (or too small) a part in your decision?
6) Do you have a track record of solving problems biblically?
7) Are you heading in the same direction in life?
8) Have you taken into account any cultural differences you have?
9) Do either of you have complicating entaglements from past marriages or relationships?
10) Do you want to marry this person?
Some of these areas can be worked through before you enter marriage. Some of them are non-negotiable. Use your wisdom and guidance from God to distinguish which are and which aren't. If you find your answers to these questions are no by all means reconsider the direction of your relationship. If they are yes, don't hesitate to ask her to marry you, and don't hesitate to say yes!
One day when I am faced with these questions I would love to share with you all the challenges in answering them honestly and the joyous outcome whether that be to end the relationship or move forward toward marriage. Both are joyous occassions if you are courting in the right manner. According to Joshua Harris, A successful courtship is one in which two people treat eachother with holiness and sincerity and make a wise choice about marriage--whether the choice is yes or no.
-To Hear Him Sing-
So, reading up the last chapters of Boy Meets Girl has been great but unapplicable to me. It goes over questions to ask before you get married. As I read it I found out you have to have a boyfriend in mind in order to answer those questions. I wasn't about to put a face to it so I hope this can be benificial to you ladies and gentlemen that are heading in the direction toward marriage. When the time comes these questions will be good for me to answer as well, but for now they are meant for you.
Questions:
1) Is your relationship centered on God and His glory?
2) Are you growing in friendship, communication, fellowship, and romance?
3) Are you clear on your biblical roles as man & woman?
4) Are other people supportive of your relationship?
5) Is sexual desire playing too big (or too small) a part in your decision?
6) Do you have a track record of solving problems biblically?
7) Are you heading in the same direction in life?
8) Have you taken into account any cultural differences you have?
9) Do either of you have complicating entaglements from past marriages or relationships?
10) Do you want to marry this person?
Some of these areas can be worked through before you enter marriage. Some of them are non-negotiable. Use your wisdom and guidance from God to distinguish which are and which aren't. If you find your answers to these questions are no by all means reconsider the direction of your relationship. If they are yes, don't hesitate to ask her to marry you, and don't hesitate to say yes!
One day when I am faced with these questions I would love to share with you all the challenges in answering them honestly and the joyous outcome whether that be to end the relationship or move forward toward marriage. Both are joyous occassions if you are courting in the right manner. According to Joshua Harris, A successful courtship is one in which two people treat eachother with holiness and sincerity and make a wise choice about marriage--whether the choice is yes or no.
-To Hear Him Sing-
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